Most people know these Online Dating Sites: Looking to waste your time and life and sucking out your soul, rarely beneficial. Obviously Haram as well. But what if there is an alternative approach, that could work? Simple yet Effective? Hidden in Plain sight?
Chapter 1: The Idea
Normal Sites Allow Users to make Profiles and then chat to people directly. It’s terrible and the negative Effects are Enormous. But what If we Take this general idea and change it up by considering the halal way of finding a spouse? The Idea is this: Men who are looking for a Wife and Siblings or better yet Fathers who are looking for a Husband for one of their Female unmarried Family Members make Profiles. There are no Women on this Site, only Men. Then, like in a typical site, everyone makes a Profile. The People who are searching for a wife would make a more or less detailed Profile about themselves, whereas those looking for a a potential Husband would make a Profile Containing some Information about themselves, their Family, and the Woman who’s looking for a Husband. Then, each party can Browse the other side and contact people directly.
Chapter 2: The Effect
The Result would be, that the dynamics would be different from classic things from the ground up. First of all would direct contact between Men and Women be avoided. This in turn removes temptations. The people who sign up to this naturally come in with a true intention to marry, and to marry based on merit, family and values. You could present yourself in a direct and honest way, it would not be about your looks or superficial showing off, but your meaningful abilities and attributes, as well as your family. It would remove difficulties with making contact since you will be talking to other Men, as well as family members. You’ll immediately get to know the family this way as well. Since it’s going through the family first, this also gives an extra level of protection and guard for the women. This also naturally keeps weird people out of the platform in the first place. You inevitably would have to focus on things which matter instead of superficialities and first impressions. And lastly, it would change the dynamics entirely. Instead of some getting most messages and many being left with nothing, there’s a good chance that it will distributed much more evenly since suddenly, completely different things matter. You would take a close look both at the families, as well as the potential husbands, since you truly want to find the best husband for your family member. Plus to that, that the purpose is marriage, and that therefore users will come and go all the time. The purpose is not to keep people hooked on the platform in order to squeeze more and more money and life energy out of them, but to find them the love of their life. Extra benefit: We many times care even more when we do it for someone else as opposed to doing it for ourselves.
CHapter 4: How to do this
It’s really just a simple site with Profiles and chats, there’s nothing particularly special about this one. Since you wouldn’t be chatting with women directly, it should also make it inherently safer as well as keep scammers out, since doing so would be super indirect and probably not worth the effort. Especially since the users probably wouldn’t be interested anyways. As for financing, since this site could be quite simple, it might be possible to finance this via donations, especially voluntary donations in case that two people actually should get married to someone who they found through this site.
Chapter 4: Maybe this exists
I didn’t look it up yet, and I’m sure that such sites might be quite small and hard to find, but maybe sites like this already exist. People let me know if there are any, and I will add them here
COnslusion
This feels like the best possible way to combine both halal partner search with digital tools. I’m sure there are many more ways to improve this and nuances to this. Feel free to inspire me.
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